Passed over for promotion
I was recently passed over for promotion at work and I'm finding it extremely difficult to get over.
Everyone loses out on a job they really want, occasionally. You pick yourself up, try to learn from the experience and move on. I've certainly done that in the past. But, this really feels different. A lot of people went for the position. But, in the end it really came down to me and my friend. I've been at the company a year longer than him and, indeed, helped to train him. He's interviewed for a couple of different jobs at the company and each time I've really rooted for him - and told him so. But, when I found out I didn't get the job I couldn't believe it. Another member of staff said he was really surprised too.
It's a new role that's just been created and I'd heard rumours that it was coming for a while. For the last year I've pretty much been doing all of the things expected of the senior role. Whenever my manager needed help with a project, training new people or someone to represent my team she has virtually always asked me to do it. I have worked so much unpaid overtime, it's ridiculous. But, I've always done it willingly. When I've noticed inconsistent standards of work on other teams I've (proactively) offered training sessions to their staff. I have consciously built a wide network of staff in different departments, so that I'll be more effective at my job. In addition to my current role I've also taken on extra responsibilities in a completely different department because I wanted a deeper understanding of how different parts of the company operate. It's also allowed me to act as an ambassador for my team and the great (if slightly behind-the-scenes) work that we do.
When I asked for interview feedback, my manager said that she felt that I could do the job and that there was really only a hairs difference between us. But, she felt that my friend gave more examples of improvements he would make once he was in the role. I think I could have come up with some more examples. But, it was still a good interview overall and she has seen the good quality of my work for a long period of time. So, if this really was the reason I didn't get the promotion, I feel awful. I'm usually such a happy, upbeat person. But, I've been feeling increasingly depressed at work and even resentful. My relationship with my friend is not what it was and I just don't recognise the person I'm turning into.
I'm still trying to do my job well and contribute to the team and I really genuinely love the company. But, I have to admit, I have almost completely stopped caring about my particular job. I feel like I've learnt everything I can and the only time I get any enjoyment is when I'm working on the side project I volunteered for in a different department. But, even that will be coming to an end soon. Where before I saw a clear career progression now I just see a black hole and I've no idea what to do about it.
I'm sorry for sounding so down. But, I'd really appreciate some advice.