Hello! :D This is my first post and I hope to make many more.
I could use some advice regarding a pushy upper. My role on the team is in-between our lead and the directs; I am in a leadership role but I don't have final say.
My team has expressed concern about our new lead, "Tammy," who has only been with us about a month. For example, Tammy has insisted on daily handshakes, off-site one-on-one's, and team lunches to "get to know us." Her intentions were not well received and the daily handshakes began to invade everyone's "personal space" (including mine). The entire team was apprehensive about the one-on-one's as well, since she knew nothing of our performance.
I mentioned to Tammy that she didn't have to do the handshakes daily and she became highly aggravated, copped an attitude and said, "Well, this is how I greet people... what is that, offensive to you or something?!" To which, I didn't respond and she walked away. Later I told her it was more an issue about personal space. Now instead of handshakes she touches and shakes the back of our chairs.
The one-on-one meeting offsite turned out to be a personal interrogation about us and our families; nothing pertaining to business or performance.
Tammy's also made it a habit to corner members of my team to extract information from private team "pow wow's" we've had with her boss. What we said to her boss is between my team and her boss only.
Tammy has also stated she wants us to "socialize" outside of work and my team is NOT interested.
Any ideas on how I can help my team deal with her? I've already approached her boss on this, who admitted Tammy needed "coaching" but there has been little improvement. I can tell Tammy is very insecure about herself and will "fly off the handle" at small disagreements or frustrations. However, I will do whatever it takes to protect my team and make them feel comfortable again. I am just at a loss.
It takes me YEARS to get to know someone I work with. I just can't believe someone is this adamant about personal knowledge of a direct. I think it's completely inappropriate and highly unprofessional. And I'm upset she was hired to begin with, merely based on the fact she's great with metrics. I personally think she's an awful people manager.
Thanks so much for any help,