As a new manager I'm discovering that parts of my job don't mesh with my character. Like confrontations. My personality prefers to smooth the waters, so it irks me at times when I feel I must be confrontational to one of my directs in order to get things done. From denying a request for leave, or reminding someone to be punctual, to delivering a new work policy, or presenting a new product to the sales team (which product they don't much want to sell).
Mark and Mike often say we don't get paid to do what we like, we get paid to do our job. What I'm wondering is if confrontationalism is an unlikable but necessary part of the job of management, or if it's the case that I'm running into so many instances of confrontation simply because of my inexperience (perhaps I'm relying too heavily on role-power and should strive to be more inclusive?).
Any comments from those older and more experienced greatly appreciated.