My manager is very even-keeled, diplomatic and just plain nice. He values people who are the same way. I've worked hard over the years to moderate myself at work, to be kind and compassionate with others and to regulate my emotions. Still he says I "don't hide anything" and that I "sound angry" at times when I don't feel angry. He just says I sound that way. I've gone to therapy, I've taken anti-anxiety meds, I take supplements that are supposed to have a calming effect. I don't know what else I can do to please him short of having a frontal lobotomy. I'm getting frustrated with trying to be like him and I'm starting to resent that I should have to be like him. I can't help but wonder if this would be happening if I weren't female. I do good work. I manage a team of 6 people. My team is happy with me. The internal customers my team supports are happy. Only my boss has a problem with me because my personality doesn't match his. Help.