As I posted on another thread ("Multiple Offers"), I have accepted another job (1200 miles away) and will be leaving my company of 7 years that I have discussed here. Last week, after listening to the casts on How to Resign, Counteroffer, How to Accept an Offer, and How Not To Accept an Offer, I resigned. I have not shared where I am going. I've had a lot of questions of (1) where I am going, (2) if I have a job for the person who is asking. and (3) why I am leaving though most people said they knew I was unhappy. I wanted to post because I hope I am handling it OK. I have no desire to work with anyone I currently work with in the future. In addition to resigning, I am working on finishing up patents/publications at work, planning temporary living, staging our house for sale, interacting with moving companies, setting up lunches, and calming my wife.
We got a new division executive who has promised sweeping change, company isn't doing well, so there is lots of talk about layoffs in Sept/Oct. My severance plan is generous. I volunteered to be laid off 2 years ago but was denied. Because my current opportunity is so good, I'm leaving no matter what, but it would be nice to get it. I started the discussion with my boss (Wed) telling her I and others feared getting laid off. She told me to focus on other things. I volunteered to be laid off to help others, but she said she has no idea what lay off plans are, as those plans are at much higher levels than us. Then she asked if I was leaving and I said yes. I told her I had multiple opportunities (which I did) that I was excited about, thanked her for her help, told her my last day would be in 2.5 weeks, and then showed her the transition document I had created. She was shocked, told me she was sad. She said that normally they try to offer something to get people to stay but she could tell my heart was elsewhere. She then said I should talk to my boss's boss later, she was meeting with him for her 1:1. She also said she feels cursed because everyone leaves under her. We talked about my project and she recognized that is was over, and there was nothing more to do. She also asked my tips on finding a new job and I told her we can talk after I leave (I really have no interest in helping her get a job watching how she treats other people).
That afternoon my boss told me that my boss's boss had halted one of my publications that was supposed to go out. I had gotten all the corporate approvals and had given the publisher the go-ahead. Normally boss's boss approves it BEFORE you go for corporate approval. She said he blocked it for reasons she didn't understand. She also said he wanted to know where I was going. I should add that while my boss's boss has financially supported my projects over the past few years, he has often yelled at me for reasons that I didn't understand, making me uncomfortable to approach him. While he has given me compliments on some of my accomplishments, I've never got any real recognition for it, so I never felt he had the greatest opinion of me (as I have posted on many threads). Rumor is (based on 12+ people who have left over the last 2 years), that boss's boss doesn't talk to you when you put in your resignation.
My boss's boss, I heard, announced my leaving at his staff meeting the next day. No one approached me that day. Friday, a few people did approach me and either ask where I was going, wish me luck, or asked if I would hire them. I did not see my boss's boss except when he was giving a tour to a new HR person that will be working in our building. My boss was out Friday and Monday.
Over the weekend, I posted on Facebook the geography where we are moving. My Facebook is private so only my friends can see it, none of whom work with me. But some do go to church with coworkers.
On Monday more people approached me. Some people claimed they knew where I was going and started guessing companies despite me not wanting to share. One of them, a boss, told me he always thought highly of me, and other bosses thought highly of me (my boss has told me the other bosses do not think highly of me), and he was sad I was leaving. People asked me what kind of raise I got and I just said it was good. People asked me what kind of relocation package I got and I said it was good. People were sarcastic that if I told them where I work they were going to call my new company, and then laughed that I believed they would actually do it. Some of these people stopped in my office 3 times in one day to tell me these things. Other people were stopping by to tell me other people were asking them where I was going.
One of the new people came by and just wished me luck. When we interviewed her last year, I was not included until my boss at the time got me in for lunch with her. After that lunch, I was only the person she connected with on Linkedin. My boss at the time told me the feedback was that the other bosses (none of whom I respect which is why I'm leaving) who DID get to interview her that felt I dominated the conversation at that lunch which was my only time to meet her. I asked her, now, if she felt that way. She said no way. She told me that the interaction with me was one of the reasons she took the job. She told me she also noticed a very negative vibe when two others recently resigned (who also left because they felt unappreciated).
- still need to approach boss's boss but not sure what to say when he asks where I am going and gets upset that I won't tell him (wife says I should wait for him to approach me)
- handling all these questions, which tempt me to give reasons, which I know I shouldn't. I need to stick to the story of a better opportunity, loved it here, not discussing anything else, hope that persson is happy for me.
Any other suggestions?