M&M say that behaviors are patterns. To that end, here’s a synopsis of the behaviors of someone and I’ve got a gut feeling about which of the DiSC traits would be considered the dominant one but there are so many competing things that I’m interested in your take on what you think the dominant trait might be.
I understand that this is a tiny sliver of a snapshot and I’m almost certain it’s jaded by my own bias to some degree or another. (I know I’m a high D: 7-2-1-5) Before I attempt to rescue a relationship which has gone sour by adjusting my approach to her, I want to make as sure as I can that I’ve correctly read the situation.
- Likes to talk about herself and her kid
- Likes to talk about other people – inside and outside the company, not always in a flattering way
- Likes to be the center of attention
- Very low tolerance for mistakes
- Repeatedly says “I remember everything” and then doesn’t or misremembers
- Resists relinquishing control
- Makes inconsistent decisions (Situation 1: do A; Situation 2: do B; Situation 3: Do A; Situation 4: do C)
- Poor time manager (working 10-20 hours per day)
- Tells rather than Asks
- If it costs more, it must be better / don’t ‘cheap-out’ on anything
- Doesn’t labor on details when presenting but insists on details when someone has slipped-up
- Perfectionist, meticulous, resistant to change, impatient, decisive, not terribly empathetic
- “Get it done, get it done right this instant and get it done absolutely perfectly”
- Not very communicative, doesn't provide feedback; when feedback is specificallyrequested, it is dismissed and postponed to a future time that never materializes
If I have any chance at saving this relationship, I want to make sure that the adjustments I make are going to help it rather than make things worse - and I'm not generally the best at reading people because I'm too focused on results. I don't want to say "this is her DiSC type so these are the fourteen things I'm going to do" and then devote daily energy to those fourteen things only to find out three or six months later when I put my head up to check for results that the relationship has acutally gotten worse!
And if it's really as simple as the banana peel test - https://s-media-cache-ak0.pinimg.com/736x/b4/3e/66/b43e669d0dd8a3da2c5d4... - I think I know my answer more readily: she's an "I" - because that banana peel story would be told individually at least ten times during the work day and then three more times during the week and then at least quarterly thereafter for a decade.