BLUF: What recommendations to you have for being approachable when people ask questions? Alternatively, what behaviors do you find defensive when asking someone questions?
Situation: I've been told by a coworker that I am not approachable when she asks questions, and that I am defensive. I haven't necessarily received this feedback from others. The coworker with the feedback is a High D/C mix; so am I. I am not sure what I am doing that is causing her to provide that feedback, and in the interest in having a good relationship, I would like to figure this out. She believes that providing the feedback that I'm defensive is enough (I've asked what behavior I did that cause her to think that).
I don't have a trusted peer or boss that I can ask for observation and feedback. I am hoping that there are some tips for being approachable OR behaviors that are found defensive so that I can figure out for myself what I'm doing.