I'm new to a project which has a large and diverse IT group (business analysts, developers, quality assurance, technical architects, project managers, ...) with different technical backgrounds who have been in a tough project for over a year. I "think" I'm seeing people talking at each other and not with each other. People seem to have their own talking points that they want to get to in meetings (I've heard several of them over and over again). They also say they understand what is going on but when a meeting ends I have trouble getting people to agree on what was actually decided.
So I am looking for some leading questions I can ask in meetings to make sure that the team is on the same page. A couple of my fallback phrases I use when I'm not sure what is being asked:
"Hey XYZ, what I think I hear you saying is ..."
"Hey TSR, I'd like to re-phrase what you said to make sure I understand. ..."
I'd also like to do questions to the rest of the team to make sure that they can explain it in a way which shows they actually understand and aren't simply saying "OK" so they can move on from the meeting.
P.S. And let's not forget the long quiet when we ask who's stepping up to work on an item.