I've enjoyed listening to the podcasts and wondered if I could seek some advice on accepting feedback. I work as a researcher. In my annual appraisal, my manager wrote that I seek feedback but do not receive it in the spirit it is intended. When I asked further he explained that this was because on one occasion I failed to validate the criticism that was given to me and focused only on why I disagreed with what was said. He also said I took the feedback too personally.
I'll explain further. I did some work for a particular supervisor who wrote report on my performance on that project which fed into my annual appraisal with my manager. The supervisor said I did not conduct interviews with stakeholders, one of the important elements of my role and had not expressed a desire to do so. When I enquired, she said she had expected to to say, specifically "I want to carry out interviews" and since I didn't she didn't assign this to me.
I want to know how best to respond to feedback when one feels it's based on incomplete/incorrect information. I'll be grateful for your response.