BLUF: A colleague who strikes me as a high S has asked for some advice on how to improve her relationship with her boss who is clearly a high D. Any tips I can pass on?
A colleague has got a new boss who is a high D. She is finding it difficult adjusting to working with him as she says she feels he does not listen to her. She wants to explain to her new boss that she finds it difficult working with him. Some of her stakeholders have also commented to her that he is brusque, impatient and forceful. This instantly sounds to me like a D-S conflict. I know her boss - he's D through and through and I find him refreshingly focused.
I plan to sit down with her and explain the DISC model as a way of thinking about interactions so she can start to think about modifying her behaviour to engage more successfully with him. She would like to explain to him how his style makes her feel. Using the DISC model I can help her think about how better to explain that (a high D might not care about how she feels if she gets the job done) but I'm not convinced a direct suggesting to a boss that he needs to act differently is a good course of action. Thoughts?