M&M suggested that discussion of benefits during an interview is unprofessional. They also said that it is not necessary to receive a written offer prior to accepting a new position. These statements left me with a couple concerns.
Do you think it's inappropriate to ask about family time flexibility and/or travel requirements during an interview? These things are extremely important to me, and are not points I can compromise on at present. It seems to me that I'd be doing myself and the interviewer a favor if I ruled myself out early for a job I couldn't accept.
Secondly, on the written offer, I've just seen two people get burnt by not getting one before they started:
One friend was offered a job, put in notice and left her current job, and then found herself with a different (and lesser) title than she'd accepted, and appropriately diminished responsibilities. She found herself stuck in the new position since her old job had already back-filled her.
The second situation involves a family member. She took a job and after working for a month or so, her supervisor was suspended on suspicion of illegal activities. She then found out that this supervisor was paying her under the table, and had officially recorded her as a volunteer! It took her more than a month to get ANY back-pay, and her new manager cut her salary because what she was offered exceeded their typical wages.
These two events have scared the dickens out of me! I would hate to find myself in similar circumstances, and it seems the only way I could avoid it would be to request a written statement including wages, benefits, title, and responsibilities.
But I assume M&M have good reasons for saying that I shouldn't request this documentation. I'm just afraid it would be me and my family in a risky position.