Just curious about what kind of "success rate" is normal to expect at the outset when actively building a network, and how to handle "non responders"?
I've been getting my network organised and looking to build connections with a wide range of people - peers, colleagues, more and less senior folks, people outside work, etc.
I'm getting far more organised in approach (terrific), and acquiring some great new contacts (terrific). But I'm also finding many people just don't seem interested (bit discouraging).
I think I'm reasonably aware of when I've goofed or approached someone in a clumsy manner... live and learn.
What I find more difficult is those cases where someone simply ignores messages / invites - which I've now seen happen quite a few times.
For example, I recently attended a course which was virtually an industry-specific opportunity to build connections. I then traveled to a city where 4 of the attendees work, and organised coffee. 1 came along, 1 stood us up, and 2 simply never replied (actually now a repeat behaviour).
With the latter 3 people, I'm not hugely bothered by this, but I feel like the message is "don't network with me, I'm not interested". So I have mentally shelved them as "people I know", vs. people I'm going to have in my network.
I've begun wondering if the above is a pretty normal experience, what kind of "success ratio" might be typical in making connections, and what sort of attitude to take to non-responders.
ie. Do you keep working to stay in touch? Find ways to "give" first, rather than just "keep in touch"? Cease positive efforts but remain receptive if they do resurface? Or just spend your energy somewhere else altogether?
Tim Sanders mentions in [i]Love is the Killer App[/i] that you should only show love to someone when it makes sense to do so... but I'm not really sure how to work out when that is...