I have a bit of unusual situation in that I am a direct to a senior pastor of a church. I know that most of the discussions on Manager Tools is oriented towards the for-profit world but I believe many of the same principles apply. That being said, I have a situation where I am in charge of the largest ministry program in our church and I report directly to the senior pastor. He and I have been friends for years and I really enjoy his friendship and leadership.
However, there is one behavior he has that I find very annoying--"his poking me with the umbrella"as M&M would say. Because of our schedules most of our communication is asynchronous--i.e., email. Because I am a high "C" in DiSC when I write emails I usually lay-out a detailed plan or ask many questions. I think my senior pastor is a moderate "D" and moderate "i" so often his replies to me are very short or he only answers the first question or two.
On one recent occasion I emailed him a question and his one word response was "k" as in Ok. I asked a couple of staff members if they had ever gotten emails with that response and they said yes.
I have modified my email style with my senior pastor over the past couple of years to fit his style more. But, there are times when a quick question or couple of bullet points won't do.
So, I have two questions:
1. Should I talk to him about the brevity of some of his answers--especially the "k" response? Or, should I just let it go?
2. Do any of you have some further recommendations for me to modify my communication style to work more effectively with him?
I appreciate any assistance you can give. Thanks.