Hey all, I apologize in advance if this has been asked previously, I searched and could not find anything. Let me preface with the situation I am currently in. I am not a manager, but have been trying to work towards it for the past year. As part of my process, I was asked to go to Manila to head a Lean management effort for an unprecedented amount of employees for my company. (over 300)- usually we do this type of project for about 150 employees with a team of 5-6 full time individual contributors. I have been doing this effort solo (and successfully I might add)- until recently, they sent a colleague to help me out. we do feedback and coching here- I am more senior in the role (although he is a higher paygrade than I)
Here is the rub, anytime I ask him to do anything, he gives me pushback and tells me why he can't or shouldn't have to do it. Everything is an argument with him. I have mentioned this to my boss, but she is just like: handle it. I'm not sure how to proceed, every time I try to give him feedback he defends himself on "why he did it" or some excuse- he roles in 30-40 minutes late - every time (whether he has a meeting or not). I know I don't have role power with him, i have been trying to leverage my influence power, but that does not seem to help. I am at my wits end with him, and trying not to let it show. (since I have been given feedback that I'm to "Passionate". - But sometimes I swear he is pushing me to get a rise out of me.) He is a higher pay grade than I so - that might have something to do with it. I have just been given another assignment to begin work with (doubled workload) and was told by my manager to make sure he steps it up a bit (to fill in the gaps) . I cant help feeling like this is a test of my delegation skills or something.
I have been working really hard at 150% to get the promotion, but when he half hearted things and I find out things arent done according to standard, it makes me look really bad. How do I get this guy to do his job? without arguing?
Any insight is most appreciated.