I have a high performing direct that likes to complain a lot. Specifically she complains about how I execute the agile PM method because it does not suit her working style. Her communication is weak and she wants me to tailor it to a style that's suitable to her. She has no filter, so she complains to me about it in our 1:1s. I kindly explains the reasoning but also offer to sort it out during our team retrospective meetings, the way devs can affect change in the process.
What's s problem is that my boss is a fan of 1:1s but she wants skip 1:1s monthly with all her skips. The gal takes the filter off and gives my boss an earful, even though I work hard at the relationship. Luckily, my boss knows she's a problem (she also has conflict with 1 fellow direct). Even though my boss knows she's a problem, this feedback comes
In the form of "did you say X to her?" Uh no I didn't. Always something nuts.
So far, my stance to my boss has been: you know about how she is, but I do have to consider all feedback. Thanks for telling me."
My boss knows she's a good dev but has mentioned that she could imagine her going away in the mid-term. I mention that only to illustrate what my boss thinks of her.
My thought is to accelerate her departure.