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Started listening to the podcast about 6 months ago when I found out I was going to be promoted to a management position.  First time manager, 28, all of my directs are older than me. 

I started one on one's and for the most part they have gone well.  One of my direct's is the highest D (DISC) I have ever encountered.  It causes a lot of friction in the organization, but she asked in our last O3 if we could move the meeting to once a month instead of once a week.  I told her no because I believed a 30 min meeting (that usually ends up being 15 because she hasn't opened up to me yet), is not a waste of our time.

Was this the right response? Any other advice on getting her to open up too would be welcome.

Thanks.

G3's picture

I think you'll find what you're looking for, in the following podcast: https://www.manager-tools.com/2015/05/overcoming-trinity-pushback-chapte...

 

tlhausmann's picture
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....keep doing the O3s on the regular, weekly pace. The situation will change. Also, the O3 is your place to continue coaching your High D direct on behaviors to be more effective when working with other DISC tendencies.

NLewis's picture

Hang in there.  It gets better.

We had the exact same situation here - new hire, high-level perfomer, aggressively professional, objected to weekly O3's.  I explained candidly that my relationships with my directs are the single most important aspect of what I do.  Relationships are quality and quantity of communication.  It's months later and we have a very good working relationship as a direct result of the meetings.