I recently re-played your podcasts on Feedback. I was trying to think how I would apply this technique, which I think is great by the way, in a situation I find myself in and maybe others do as well.
Here it is...I've been told by a couple of sources (somewhat reliable) that one of my direct reports continually bad mouths me to others in my department, including other direct reports of mine, her direct reports and others. I've been told she has insinuated to these folks I am having an affair with the HR Manager and accused my wife of physically abusing me. She even wore a name tag from a Dollar General store and when others asked her about it she told them, "I'd rather work for Dollar General than Jim C.". She consistently protrays me as a barrier for her and others progression within the company.
While I don't have 'direct' knowledge of this behavior (I've not heard it directly or seen it), it's all second and third hand information, how can I or can I at all provide this direct report feedback, when I am not 100% sure these things have happened or if they did happen, are the facts accurate? How sure do I need to before pulling her in? Or do I just tell her what I have heard and go from there?
Your input is appreciated and valued.