1. Any comments/suggestions on my planned feedback below for a direct on interrupting and side discussions?
2. Is it appropriate for me to stop him when he interrupts or ask him to stop/share when he has the side discussions? Should I tell him I am going to do this?
He is a high D and high C - very passionate and very vocal. He's also pretty upset about recent layoffs and such but that's not an excuse.
Specifically, at a meeting yesterday afternoon he: 1) was writing notes on a sheet of paper to a peer next to him & discussing it; and 2) he kept interrupting a presenter on the phone when that person was answering a question he asked.
My feedback is:
"There were two specific behaviors at the meeting yesterday I need to address. First, you were writing notes back and forth to 'teammate' sitting next to you and talking lowly to him. This behavior distracted the rest of the team who kept looking at the sheet when you wrote. Once you confused the presenter when you say "no" loud enough that he could hear and he paused and asked if there was a question. Since we were using a web cam, the remote areas could see this side conversation as well. When you do this, you distract all parties present. It is disrespectful to the speaker. You were not listening to the presenter when he was answering questions - most of which you asked. I will not allow side discussions at my meetings - written or oral. If you have something to say, say it to the group or keep it for after.
Secondly, I counted 8 times where you interrupted the speaker answering a question that you asked. You should not interrupt others. First, you did not listen to their whole comment. You should not assume you know what they were going to say from the start of a question. Secondly, others on the team may have been interested in the whole statement but never heard it. Third, people will quit talking if you continually interrupt them. A lot of people on the team are high C's and quiet in meetings. Your talking over them shuts them right down. You must wait until someone is finished speaking before talking.
What can you do differently??