Bottom line: I am about to resign and have a bad relationship with my boss. How can I diminish the negativity after I leave?
Background: I was hired a bit more than a year ago to lead a team of 3 professionals. I was supposed to start immediately. It was not a dangle. In addition, I was promised (in a written form) a raise in 1/2 a year.
However, at first, my manager said that before I can start managing the team I should go in depth into the work details and know more about the processes. Every couple of weeks she has been coming with different requirements and excuses to why she still can not allow me to do the job I was hired to.
After ~4 months, she has had a conversation with me and said that "The role has changed and it is not managerial anymore (p.s. it has never been). And....since the job has changed - we will not give you the raise we told you about when you were hired. If you want, we would like you to stay, but if you want something different, feel free to leave".
Later, I have found that she had been behaving dishonestly in other circumstances as well, but that does not really matter...
Anyway, I couldn't leave at that time (personal issues) and kept on working. I know that she would have been more that glad to kick me out, but I was a very good (probably the best) worker in the team and the CTO and the CEO appreciate me very much. Therefore, I was "protected".
Our relationship has dramatically deteriorated - no weeklies for 3 months, she kind of ignores me...etc. No vivid clash, but there is a HUGE elephant in the room.
Now, after a bit over a year at work, I found a new place and going to resign. I had listened to the podcast on how to resign professionally and this is exactly what I will do.
However, she knows many people and I don't know where we can meet in the future. Therefore, I want to act cleverly and not to be "Mr. right". What I care about is my career in the future!
Even though I was not the one that acted dishonestly, what can I do to improve the relationship before I leave? To make it at least "neutral" and not "lousy"? To take the huge elephant out of the room?
What would YOU do?
Thank you very much for your advices!