Hello all! As I think I've mentioned previously, my position will be cut to 50% later this year because of state budget shortfalls.  I've started looking (and interviewing!) for new positions, and I've been fairly open with my boss that I need a full time position, and will be exploring other options. the MT podcast on resigning, I find that I'm doing it wrong (as usual!).  MT says that you should keep plans to leave hush hush right up until the last minute.

I've been trying to keep the job hunting on the down-low and work quietly on succession planning.  I'm training folks to pick up things I'll be handing off, but pretty much everyone knows my position has been cut. And that I probably won't stay. (Our hr folks are not discreet. Sigh.)

We've had another series of security issues (forum readers will know of the DRAMAZ of which I speak), and I know that as much as it breaks my heart to leave, it's time to go. I am tired of being afraid, and tired of wondering if every dead animal near my house is a message.  And, since I am the primary target, I hope that when I'm gone the drama will go away too.

I suspect, though, that now that I'm emotionally ready to cut the cord to my (former) dream job, that I might also be rushing into making that separation official with a letter.

Soooo...given that boss knows that I'm going.....should I make it official so that they can at least start looking for a new 1/2 time person to replace me?  Or keep waiting until there is a firm offer to take any action?

I'm conflicted. 

Discuss :)

melissas's picture

Your boss is lucky to have such an open relationship with you. It's up to them to take your information seriously and start interviewing now.

(Why keep quiet)
It was my impression from the podcasts that the reason you keep things absolutely quiet is because there's no way to predict whether you'll be shown the door right then and there. Clearly, you have a great relationship with your boss, but it's never too late for someone else higher up to give the order.

(Why you shouldn't write a letter)
Speaking from my own recent experience with resigning, I really appreciate how my transition plan really served as my resignation. Oh yea. I wrote the letter. It felt gooood. It helped me clarify in my head that I was really, actually moving on. But recognizing that the letter really was just for me and  the transition file was a wiser plan of action, I tossed it. I don't think my boss had ever seen such a thing, but I know he appreciated it.

Good luck in your search! I hope you get a good offer quickly!

bug_girl's picture

Yeah, I'm glad I slowed down enough to ask here first. You are absolutely right.

consider me validated and moving on :)

Mark's picture
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Keep quiet.  Share nothing.

Your boss knows this job won't be right for you. It's his responsibility to fill it.

Further: you're not obligated to tell the truth to your boss if he asks you (a) are you interviewing, or (b) are you leaving.

At West Point, there was a rule that the leadership couldn't use the Honor Code against the Corps of Cadets.  If there were evidence of an accident, for instance, they couldn't line up a bunch of folks and ask if they did it, and then expect them to tell the truth.  (Just to be clear, lawyers, this is not the same thing as a blanket self-incrimination; cadets ARE obligated to tell the truth if there is evidence, etc.  This is designed not to protect the cadet but rather protect the Honor Code from becoming an all-powerful regulations-enforcement tool.  And Mike and I should know - he was the 3@ person in charge of the Honor Code when we were there.)

There's also a saying I believe in: you're entitled to an honest answer to any question to which you're entitled an answer.  Your boss can't expect you to answer honestly if he is asking for the benefit of himself.

And, for those of you whom this answer surprises, listen carefully to all our guidance over the years, and you'll find a clear thread/pattern/history of being clear about the natural tensions that exists when individuals interface with organizations, and systems for one rub up against standards of the other.

And good luck.



afmoffa's picture

There was some podcast where Mark offered this "entitled to an answer" quote, and at the time it made no sense to me. Reeked of situational ethics, in fact. Reading it now, it is wisdom.

 "There's also a saying I believe in: you're entitled to an honest answer to any question to which you're entitled an answer.  Your boss can't expect you to answer honestly if he is asking for the benefit of himself."

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In short, I recommend that you follow the MT advice and keep quiet.

About 3 years ago, I resigned from the only company at which I had ever been employed. It was a hard decision and very emotional for me. I told no one (except my spouse) while I was looking. That made things a lot easier when I got rejections.

When I did get an offer, I wrote a resignation letter and took it to my supervisor. I also delivered transition documents. Although he was surprised, I believe I left a professional impression and having the MT structure helped me not get too emotional during the actual resignation process.

Good luck and hang in there!