This was written by Dale Carnegie in the 1920's. It's message is as relevant now as it was then. I'd like to share a few points that made a difference in my life...
Point 1: "What are the chances that this thing we're worried about will happen?"
How many times do we jump immediately to the worst case scenario? I have always struggled with interviewing, and it got into my head. The scenarios were WAY out there, and for no reason. James A. Garfield said, " I have had many troubles, but the worst of them never came". Mr. Garfield is right. This clarified a lot of my worries.
Point 2: "Analyze the problem, reconcile yourself to the worst case, then devote time and energy to improve the worst case."
My worst case scenario is different than yours, and that's ok. If I isolate the variable that can be altered, I can accept the consequences. Then, I can work to improve my odds at succeeding. The worry has vanished, because i've been able to get good guidance.
Point 3: The remedy for worry is to get completely occupied in something constructive. GET BUSY!!!
Have you noticed that one is unable to focus on the the music in the bus and the newspaper one is reading? That's because your brain is unable to multi-task. I went for a hike in the Appalachians with three friends two years ago, after graduate school. I did not have time to worry about what's next; I was too physically exhausted!
There you have it. I want you to buy this book!