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Hello,
I would like to share something with you.
I consider myself a person C. I like processes, I'm organize ... basically I listen carefully your podcast and I follow your advices. I do one on one, meetings department, feedback, I use agendas etc, etc.
My boss is the other away around he's I but his management style is really different from me. He doesn't make one on one, he doesn't do department meetings ... he doesn're reply to my emails, he doesn't cancel conf.call, he doesn't inform when he's working from home ....
This is something frustating for me as I'm proactive and when I create a document or processes that I think will help the company he doesn't reply to my emails. Also he usually arrives late in meetings etc, etc basically we are really different.
Sometimes is frustating for me as it doesn't matter what I create he will not be as interested as I would like. On the other hand in the quaterly performance review he said he was impressed with my job. Also he leaves freedom to do what I want, that includes holidays, timetable, purchase stuff. So it's like a dilemma for me. He doesn't pay me to much attention daily but in the reviews he seems to be happy.
Should I try to do anything?
What do you think? Thanks
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I forgot to add that I don't want to end working like him, but the temptation is there. It's easier no taking meeting notes, no preparing agendas, no doing formal processes .... what I'm sure is that he will not work like me in terms of organizing docs and all that.
my boss and me are son different!
chapu - have regular meetings with him. Do not arrange them, just have informal chats as often as you can to discuss matters that you need dealt with. Be relaxed but have a short note on the status of your projects/jobs so he is regularly updated. More formal sit down once a month or quarter to catch him up with all you have done.
If you want to get the best out of the job and him - you need to do the chasing. If you do it regularly, he will come to depend on you as a 'rock'. Regular contact will allow you to work with him as a team. If you do your job and assist in covering his weak areas (like paperwork) you will increase you chances of being delegated more inportant tasks.
If you like the job stick with it. But it is a hard situation.
Chris
my boss and me are son different!
If you're a C and he's an I, your "default" behaviors are going to conflict and drive each other nuts.
You cannot change him. period. period. period.
You cannot change yourself. period. period. period.
You can change your behavior. How you approach him. What are you doing to appeal to an I? Are you tailoring your messages?
I have a very high C that works for me, I'm an I. My life would suck without her. She gets things done and keeps me on track. Over time I have learned to trust her, and she has learned to tolerate me. Now, when she says she has made a "blah blah" study and thinks we should "static" do something - I agree. She's good at that stuff.
My point? I's trust people. You're your boss's expert. Read up on DiSC, or listen to the registered member podcasts on DiSC, especially I. Then adjust your behavior to appeal to your boss when you're working with your boss. He probably really does appreciate you. The rest of the time, be your C self. You should never give that up.
my boss and me are son different!
Chapu:
Suggestion #1: You cannot change your boss. You can either accept how your boss is or move somewhere else.
Suggestion #2: If you find something to be really effective in how you work, great! Continue to do it! Be effective! When you want to suggest your boss to do the same thing, refer to Suggestion #1.
CC
my boss and me are son different!
Don't try to change your boss.
Keep doing what you're doing.
And, think about learning from him. Are the other managers more like him, or you? What of his skills (he has some good ones, perhaps relationships) might you learn?
Never try to change your boss.
Mark