What impact does a "poker tell," like your face turning red when upset, have on your career, and what can I do about it?
After a recent steel cage deathmatch (aka Talent Review), a fellow manager came up to me. He told me that since I have pale skin it is very obvious when I'm upset since my face turns red. He said that others often conclude the winner of an argument based on who keeps their cool, and it was obvious to others that I did not keep my cool. From my point, I thought that I did not get terribly upset and that the whole session went relatively smoothly. Ironically, I consider that I have great self control.
I'm concerned that the appearance of me getting upset will give a negative perception to my boss and his boss, both of who are high-I. This may have a negative impact on both myself and my directs. Do you agree? Furthermore, what can I do about it, especially considering that I may not be aware of how I look to others?