I am the first outside hire they have had in this company in a long time. When I took the job almost 3 months ago I found out that some of the people who report to me went out for the job as well. Since I have started I have had a very rough transition.
My boss started to get quite a few complaints about me that weren’t true such as I am intimidating, sleeping in my office and things of that nature.
I have tried to get some small wins by getting feedback to those who didn’t get the job and discussing it with them, getting them better tools to do their jobs etc.
Lately one very vocal person on the team just started to lash out on me and ignore me. He has told my co-manager that he doesn’t want to interact with me and prefers that I do not say anything to him. He currently reports to my co-manager for all operational aspects of his job. My co-manager suggested this until we can figure something out.
This however doesn’t stop with him as I always find every one on one with my boss there is some new complaint. I have had meetings with my directs and kept it very friendly. No foul language…addressing them as Mr. and Ms..but still they say that I am scary or I am doing things to hurt them.
Most of my direct reports will ask my co-manager for permissions to do things but they won’t ask me unless it’s putting in a time off request so I spend the majority of my day in my office alone.
I feel like a powerless manager as anytime my direct reports disagree with me or don’t get the answer they wish they phone my boss saying that I am scaring them and my boss calls me to discuss it. It has made me really loose motivation to coach, delegate and direct.
I sit mostly in my office and do my work. When everyone packs up to leave they don’t say good bye to me or just act like I am not there…nor do I bother to say anything as I am fearful my interaction will be labeled as a threat.
I do not have a “sounding board” to discuss these things because if I share how I feel with my co-manager she will share this with my boss.
If I tell my boss how I feel even if it is done very carefully then he will lose even more faith in me and it’s rapidly running out.
It makes me really wonder if I should be here as I have casually started looking for other jobs at this time.