BLUF - Right now, I am dealing with some people outside the work realm (no, it is not any manager-tools people) who don't seem to understand keeping a committment.
In one situation, a long-time friend keeps calling me to go for lunch/coffee etc and then blows it off. If I try to give her feedback, she almost always tries to flip it around "So what if I said I would call you after I was done with my presentation? You should have called me!"
In the other, I am a volunteer manager of a mixed adult slow pitch team. I rarely know who will show up and who won't, so I end up calling spares to play and then we have too many players. Of course, then the players who did not let me know they were coming complain that they don't get enough playing time.
The typical response I get is "I will try to make it, but am biking out to Oakville that day and not sure if I will be back in time. Good luck if I don’t make it." Of course, this response helps me in no way whatsoever.
Anyone have any suggestions as to what adjustments I might make to get yeses and nos out of these people.
With much appreciation,