I'm trying to figure out the best way to navigate a career issue. Do I address this problem directly, or just bite my tongue?
BLUF: My manager made an insulting comment about my receding hairline at an all-staff. How should I respond?
I'm currently working as an individual contributor on a workgroup of 15. There's one director (newly hired, starting in a few weeks), two managers, and various worker bees and support staff. There are four male employees in the group (myself included). I'm a high C/D, and my manager is a female high I. None of the managers follow the trinity in any way (I've gently raised it as an idea here and there, but it hasn't gained traction).
Here's the scenario where the comment occurred:
We had a staff meeting to introduce the new director and to introduce each employee. Each employee had a chance to introduce themselves and their background. One of the other male employees joked during his intro that the job had caused him to gain weight and lose his hair (he shaves his head). There was laughter, and it was a good-natured self-deprecating joke.
After his intro, my manager pipes in and addresses the two other male employees by name, joking with them that this is what they have to look forward to (they have full heads of hair). She then turns to me, says that she didn't include me in that group because I was already losing my hair.
I'm 38, and sure, my hairline is heading backwards like many men my age. But I didn't feel it was an appropriate comment to make, particularly in front of all my colleagues. I was initially mortified and speechless. When it was my turn to introduce myself I couldn't think of much, because I was still in shock.
So, what do I do? Ignore it? Respond to the manager directly and say how I felt about it?
Any guidance from forum members would be appreciated. Thanks.