I've been doing O3s for 3 years--almost as long as I've been a manager. (Found MT right after getting promoted.)
Last week, one of my directs asked in our O3, basically, what's the point of these meetings? She's super-busy right now (we all are) and she was saying it's a waste of time to pull her away from her big project to "chat." I don't remember what all she said, but afterward I found myself thinking "I suck." (as a manager)
Then at her LAST O3 she sat and looked at me with an impatient expression and flicked her hands as if to say, "Well? Well?" I drew her out and she said, "I've already told you I don't like these meetings, I've told you I don't like you taking notes, it's like a therapy session or something, I don't have time to chat, it's a distraction from my big project, and I'm not the only one who feels that way. But you're the boss, so here I am."
I couldn't believe the hostility radiating off her. And she used to be my easiest O3!
I have to admit I've slacked off on listening to the podcasts. I just yesterday listened to the one about resistance to O3s (from last October)... although that one seems geared toward the manager just starting up O3s.
I see there are also a couple others that might be pertinent -- the "Work or Personal?" one, and the "O3s are Business Meetings," and one about relaunching them after a few years.
I know I haven't been working O3s like I should. It's hard to come up with things to cover though... these are individual contributors, with little room for advancement (unless I get hit by a bus).
Really, I know what I need to do. But I feel like a failure right now. Just had to talk to SOMEbody about it, more than anything.