I've got a question about how to handle a situation where your manager is giving you too much feedback. My current manager is someone I have a lot of respect for and I genuinely want to achieve the goals he is setting out for the department and organisation.
However I am having difficulty working out an effective communication strategy with him. He is definitely a high D in communication style, as well as a high E extrovert and I am a high C and INTP (as well as being the only humanities person in an IT department).
He is constantly giving me feedback on how I operate, usually with the "good news/bad news" approach. Now I do accept the validity of much of what he says, as particularly when stressed or under pressure I can be overly intellectual and cerebral in how I approach things. And I know that can make people uncomfortable - a recent feedback was that my vocabulary should be dumbed down and that I shouldn't use abstract concepts.
When he gives me feedback I take it on board and try work out ways to integrate it into my behaviour so that the change sticks.
Trouble is, his well meaning feedback is starting to feel relentless and counter productive, to the point that if he says anything good to me I immediately brace myself for the next piece of bad behaviour advice. It feels like he is trying to make a C be a D, when it would be more useful to help make a C be a more effective C. If you know what I mean :wink:
I'm feeling pressured because I'm not getting a chance to correct and integrate one behaviour before I'm being told to correct another. Which would probably be corrected anyway with an adjustment to the first...As a consequence everything is running together and I am starting to give up and switch off.
I think he recognises that I am genuinely making an effort to effect change. But how do I give him feedback that he is crowding me and not helping me effectively?