BLUF: Is saying "I will try ... " good / appropriate / correct / best? (I will try to change. I will try to do better. I will try to get that done. I will try to fix it.)
In the past week or so, I've run across "I'll try ..." a number of times and it doesn't sit well with me for some reason. A wise fictional character once said "Do. Or do not. There is no try." I know I'm a high D and I'm results-focused so that's probably where my discomfort with "I'll try" comes into play. Trying is all well and good but "the road to hell is paved with good intentions." It's great if someone wants to try to do better but if the behavior or results are the same, the "wanting to try" aspect is irrelevant because the results are still disappointing.
I see the word "try" as a hedging word - as in hedging my bets. "I want to do better if only so you don't hate me but I can't commit to actually doing better so I'll toss you a 'try' so that you won't kill me for this mistake right now and if I screw it up again in the future, you won't have counted on me to actually DO better since I only said I'd TRY to do better."
I've been listening to some podcasts this morning and I heard they were talking about how we do certain things and said "Guys, this is ... " only to follow-up with a side note "for the ladies, 'guys' is neutral." It occurred to me that the gendered pronoun didn't faze me in the least. I mention this because I don't think this "try" issue is a semantic / word choice issue for me so much a mindset, attitude, goal issue. By inserting "try" into whatever it is they're saying, they're undermining their own goals and setting the stage for their own failure.
Am I being too hard on humanity for "trying" to do things? (Note that I don't actually take action based on these thoughts. I don't get in anyone's face about telling me they'll "try" and I don't get into a philosophical or semantic discussion with anyone about their word choices.) I'm fairly certain I do what the "try" implies: I lower my expectation of their results and effort because they've hedged their bets.