I have a problem with one of my directs who is a 60 year old man, who's wife has brain tumor and a heart condition. He has worked in my team for a little over a month. The former team leader that employed him warned me about his unprofessional behaviour in his team, though after meeting the direct, I thought he was overreacting.
And now things are getting out of hand:
- He is dominant and a rambler, he is more than twice the age of the rest of the team (including me), thus behaving like he is a co-manager.
- He disrupts my meetings and has during one of them shouted to another direct (in front of the whole team) with a speech about how the other was late which is disrespectful for me and the team - and then added a racist comment to it.
- Complains that he is the only senior in the team, and it is very hard to work with people that are as old as his grandchildren.
- Has now, in two incidents, shouted to colleagues in public.
- Talks constantly about his wife who is sick, making the whole team lose motivation.
My issue is now this: as much as I talk to him, and explain to him how his behaviour affects the team negatively, cut him down in meetings, and have a very serious talk about discrimination, he is not changing or getting out of control (obviously due to his wife being very sick). Nothing I say seems to get through, especially when he disturbs me in the middle of what I am saying.
He has now been forced to have a sick leave and seek help; his mental instability is making things get out of hand. However, when he comes back, how do you deal with such a direct?
// I manage a team of 9 people, first-time manager for 8 months now.