This morning, I was told by my boss that the time spent on one-on-ones and coaching was not justified and that neither I nor he had the competency to be coaching.
Briefly, I spend maximum one hour per week per person (2) on a one-on-one and a coaching of listening skills and micro-behaviors and communication. I do not go into grave detail as I am not an expert but I back up my coaching with documentations from manager tools and other known sources. I must add that I have seen an improvement in communication as well as in motivation of my directs as they interpret the time as ‘we’re important because someone is actually taking time with us’.
This angered me on several levels, however two stand out.
One: I believe that managers should motivate, coach, guide and give a sense of importance to their directs. To know that MY boss does not value the same vision makes it difficult, as his employee, for me to accept.
Two: It’s a respect and trust issue. It feels as though there is no trust and respect on his behalf in my regard as he seems to believe that I would ‘waste’ time on a useless project.
I am a high D with I and normally do not hesitate to communicate my disapproval however with this issue simply gave the objective of the one-on-ones and the coaching but did not defend my point-of-view because he does not share the vision and I did not want to be in a position where my true and unfiltered opinion would fall out of my mouth before I could catch it…
I am presently digesting this new information and assembling a new objective and action plan. I thought some outside input could help.