OK, so it's hard for me to give feedback to my team. I keep trying to provide both positive and adjusting feedback but it's just not getting any easier and I don't feel like I'm getting any better at it - ugh!
1) I feel that I am not being genuine with my positive feedback.
2) I don't know if I am clear on the "behavior" for the adjusting feedback episodes which ofter causes confusion for both me and my employee. For example, when I give adjusting feedback - "when you reply in meetings with defensive tones and raise your voice in meetings it (WHAT DO I SAY???). This is the part that is difficult for me... pinpointing their behavior and the impact it has and how I want it to change is the big confusion point for me.
I have stumbled in my pursuit of the MT Trilogy and would like some guidance from my fellow forum members. Anyone else struggle with this and/or any guidance, suggestions on how to overcome this challenge are greatly welcome.
To Mark's emphasis.. I want to breathe (or have feedback be as easy as breathing) and I feel like I am suffocating :D .